He's Just Not That Into You

Off again yesterday. *sigh… just don’t have the motivation to go thru the Monday blues.. went to movie instead! He’s Just Not That Into You. Got ticket for the premier last week but I didn’t go cos I’ve only 1 ticket! Aku belum sampai tahap tengok movie sorang2 OK. Tho it may be fun…but I’d rather go with someone. Hmm…. I don’t wanna go thru all the movie details. I’m more interested to mengupas isu yang diketengahkan. I think every woman should watch this movie. It’s kinda wake up call you know. Knock, knock, reality check please. Hehe..

Here’s the story in a nutshell. It’s from a book with same title by Greg Behrendt (Sex and the City) and Liz Tuccillo.

Chapter 1: He's Just Not That Into You If He's Not Asking You Out

Because if he likes you, trust me, he will ask you out. Men find it very satisfying to get what they want. If a guy truly likes you, but for personal reasons, needs to take things slow, he will let you know immediately. He won't keep you guessing because he'll want to make sure you don't get frustrated and go away. Don’t let him trick you into asking you out. Men, for most part, like to pursue women. An excuse is a polite rejection. Men are not afraid of "ruining the friendship." You are good enough to be asked out.

Chapter 2: He's Just Not That Into You If He's Not Calling You

Men know how to use the phone. When you like someone, they just don't slip your mind. You know they mean it when they actually do what they said they were going to do. Men are never too busy to get what they want. If he's not calling you, it's because you are not on his mind. If he's choosing not to make a simple effort that would put you at ease and bring harmony to a recurring fight, then he doesn't respect your feelings and needs. You deserve a fucking phone call!

Chapter 3: He's Just Not That Into You Is He's Not Dating You

"Hanging out" is not dating. A man who's really into you is going to want you all to himself. Better than nothing is not good enough for you! If you don't know where the relationship is going, it's okay to pull over and ask. There's a guy out there who will want to tell everyone he's your boyfriend.

Chapter 4: He's Just Not That Into You If He's Not Having Sex With You (Boleh Skip or translate into he’s having a secret affair Haha)

When men like you, they want to touch you, always. If a man is not trying to undress you, he's just not that into you. If you're tempted to spend countless nights just cuddling with someone, buy a puppy. There's someone out there that does want to have sex with you, hot stuff!

Chapter 5: He's Just Not That Into You If He's Having Sex With Someone Else ( same goes to this chapter)

There's never going to be a good excuse for cheating. Cheating doesn't just "happen". It was planned and executed with the full knowledge that it could end your relationship. Cheating is a complete betrayal of trust. 100% of guys polled said that they have never accidentally slept with anyone.

Chapter 6: He's Just Not That Into You If He Only Wants To See You When He's Drunk (Thankfully kite not having this problem or change it to If he's having a prob or in dilemma and nobdy else yang nak layan dia)

If he likes you, he'll want to see you when his judgment isn't impaired. It doesn't count unless he says it when he's sober. Drinking and drug use are not a path to one's innermost feelings. You deserve to be with someone who doesn't have to get loaded to be around you.

Chapter 7: He's Just Not That Into You If He Doesn't Want To Marry

Love cures commitment phobia. Don't spend your time on and give your heart to any guy who makes you wonder about anything related to his feelings for you. If you don't feel like you're rushing, why are you waiting? There's a guy out there who wants to marry you.

Chapter 8: He's Just Not That Into You If He's Breaking Up With You

"I don't want to go out with you" means just that! Always be classy. Never be crazy. A breakup is a definitive action, not a democratic one. Breakup sex means you're still broken up. Cut him off. Let him miss you.

Chapter 9: He's Just Not That Into You If He's Disapppeared On You

Sometimes you have to get closure all by yourself. There's nothing worse than having no answer. No answer is your answer. Don't give him the chance to reject you again. There's no mystery-he's gone and he wasn't good enough for you.

Chapter 10: He's Just Not That Into You If He's Married (And Other Insane Variations Of Being Unavailable)

If you're not able to love fully, it's not really love. He's married. Unless he's all yours, he's still hers. Don't be that 'other' girl. tak baek kacau rumah tangga or hubungan orang..isk isk...

Chapter 11: He's Just Not That Into You If He's A Selfish Jerk, A Bully, Or A Really Big Freak

If you really love someone, you want to do things to make that person happy. So if he doesn't do those things then... You are the catch! Life is hard enough as it is without choosing someone difficult to share it with…


It’s true women (not all but most of ‘em) are brought up with a unique notion of why things happened. We tend to dissect each and every tiny lil things to find some meaning in it that we can relate to, and usually it meant what we want to believe. That’s why we clashes with men. If a man doesn’t call after a fun nite out, we dished out every excuse we can think of why he didn’t call like ‘Maybe he lost my number or is out of town or got hit by a cab!’. Whereas the most obvious reason why he didn’t call is he is just not that into you… or in some cases, he is just not into you anymore… you know, like ‘ it’s been great I think we should take time off from each other and find out what we really want’. Err... I think I’ve used that line before… and be given a derivative of that line too… haha

We hate rejection (who doesn’t?!) and that’s why we came out with thousands reason that wont hurt us as bad. Sometimes we even blame ourselves for not treating him good or whatever, so that it’ll be like he didn’t walk out cos he want to, but we made him to. Haha... Complex creature we are. One of the guy in that movie said that, if a man doesn’t call, he don’t want to. If a man is interested, he’ll make it happen, he’ll find that woman, whatever it takes.

So, if a man doesn’t want you…move on. Don’t blame on every excuse you can find. It’s pathetic and a great disservice to all women in the world. Plenty of fish out there you know… open up your options. But please don’t hookup with a guy on false pretenses. It is just ain’t right.

P’s: Someone really should sue Disney for making us believe there is happily ever after, love at first sight and all those crap ‘bout love… Watching that movie ada terasa macam 'kelepek terkena muka tuan director' hahaha